What Has Happened to American Men?
I write this column especially for those readers young enough not to know what life was like in the great middle class prior to Gloria Steinem and her brand of toxic feminism.
[Gloria Marie Steinem is an American feminist, journalist, and social political activist
who became nationally recognized as a leader and a spokeswoman for the American feminist movement in the late 1960s and early 1970s. Steinem was a columnist for New York magazine, and a co-founder of Ms. Magazine.]
As Kimberly Ross wrote at RedState: My fondness for political struggles that American women of decades past endured stops around 1963. That year, President Kennedy signed the Equal Pay Act. The law put an end to wage disparity solely based on sex. This common sense victory in the workplace was a necessary one.
Oh, such antiquated, out-dated, sexist ways we had back in the early 60’s! Or so it is said.
As Gloria Steinem said: A woman was expected to follow one path: to marry in her early 20s, start a family quickly, and devote her life to homemaking. … salaries than men and denied opportunities to advance, as employers assumed they would soon become pregnant and quit their jobs, and that, unlike men, they did not have families to support.
I have long thought that when women declared that they did not want to stay home to raise their own children, to teach them what they believed, to indoctrinate them in the ways of the parents, they changed the country if not the world. They certainly changed their children.
I had the privilege and ability to stay home to rear my own children at least until they went off to school. We lived a simple life: living in small homes, dining on peanut butter and pasta, forsaking meals out, as well as vacations and shopping sprees. We focused on making life as wonderful as we could by giving ourselves to the centuries old practice of being active mothers. We are the nurturers. Oh, and yes, we were the nurturers of husbands, taking care of him who went out each and every day to earn a living so that he could provide for the family at home. I always thought that was sort of a raw deal for the men, to have to work til they were at least 65 years old in order to support his family together. Meanwhile, after our children were in school, mothers gained a lot of freedom to do with their time new things that fulfilled them.
I watched as the culture changed with the appearance of Gloria Steinem, and women left their babies in the care of day care centers, not knowing what was happening in their absence. The joy for them of not being burdened with the trials of caring for, educating, disciplining, and of doting on one’s children came with repercussions. They then bought bigger homes, ate out a lot, and spent most of the money the two wage earners brought in. They paid for house cleaners, daycare, professional clothing and more. Therefore, they could not at any time quit, as their income was vital to their new lifestyle, even though so much of it was siphoned off for added expenditures.
While women were suddenly given the accolades of performing good work in the job market, these women had to come home after a hard day of work to then be required to fix dinner, clean house, supervise homework, and tuck into bed the children they had forsaken all day in order to feel important in the job market. They felt guilty for being gone from their children all day long. They were exhausted and surprised that the fathers wanted little to do with the typical mother things do in the house.
Then I began to notice other results of these actions. Women were now being noticed by the men at work and made to feel perhaps more special than their husbands were making them feel. Women began to be available to have affairs in increasing numbers just because they were around men seeking to have affairs. The affairs damaged the marriages of both the men and the women. Divorce rates rose. But the glorious feelings, I guess, of having an income of one’s own, despite it causing so many more burdens on the life of the working mothers, was so special and fulfilling in their minds!
The result of all this important corporate achievement encouraged more and more girls to go to college, not to meet a man as many had done before, but to displace men in the workplace with women who wanted more than a happy life raising children. They wanted to be equal to men in the workplace, even though it is they who had to leave work to care for sick children, and who took time off for caring for a new baby, for instance. At the time there was no paid family leave.