I have talked some about my latent misogyny and I am still a little angry with the opposite sex for some reason, maybe all those failed relationships I have been in. Maybe even from junior high with all those ladies who like to flirt and tease. Then you maybe mention to a buddy you like her and then he mentions it to her, and you can see her laughing and shaking her head all innocent and as if.
We learn are manipulations early in life. Thinking back on my childhood:
I remember asking for stuff that I thought I wanted and when I would not get it, I would sort of melodramatically beg and plead like the world was ending. When that did not work i would pout around, maybe even cry some at the very unfairness of the world for a while and, eventually, hatch a plan.
The plan had a lot to do with ingratiating, butt kissing in other words. That was the birth of the charming John Michael who is still a little with me to this day.
I am mostly through my narcissistic rage, but it cropped up a time or two recently. I have written about my mom’s games some and she said something the other day that set me off a little. It had to do with her long suffering and martyrdom when she did not hear from her oldest son while he was on the streets.
She is funny at times. Her friends like me and when one of them says something kind about me, well she sees fit to take me down a notch. So I was pissed off and moody and she was talking to me from the other room like she likes to do when I am around. I thought, “she loves me in her own way,” and felt a little something give in my heart and my anger lessened.
Well yesterday I picked a fight on twitter with some feminists who were laying down the law to Matt Damon who had the nerve to say that butt grabbing, although very bad, was not in the same category as pedophilia. I hinted I thought maybe some women may use their sexuality as a way to manipulate men. Well my twitter feed blew up in a way I never thought possible.
Part of my problem is that when I find my body responding to ladies who are dressed in a sexy manner, I become very embarrassed internally and am not sure what to say or do. I have asked women, especially younger women, to cover up at times, so I could concentrate on not concentrating on their sexuality. Part of it is Christian guilt to a certain extent. I came up with a pretty good line when I was thinking about all this. I am so sexually repressed, I repress sex, while I am having sex.
My defenses are slowly giving way and I am becoming interested in how women think about themselves, their sexuality, and the world we live in. Ladies I do believe I can find some authentic kindness for you, instead of being all charm and ingratiation which we all know are lying manipulative lies.
According to sociologist Allan G. Johnson, “misogyny is a cultural attitude of hatred for females because they are female”. Johnson argues that; “Misogyny …. is a central part of sexist prejudice and ideology and, as such, is an important basis for the oppression of females in male-dominated societies. Misogyny is manifested in many different ways, from jokes to pornography to violence to the self-contempt women may be taught to feel toward their own bodies.
In his book City of Sokrates: An Introduction to Classical Athens, J.W. Roberts argues that older than tragedy and comedy was a misogynistic tradition in Greek literature, reaching back at least as far as Hesiod.
The term misogyny itself comes directly into English from the Ancient Greek word misogunia (μισογυνία), which survives in several passages.
Aristotle says that the courage of a man lies in commanding, a woman’s lies in obeying; that ‘matter yearns for form, as the female for the male and the ugly for the beautiful’; that women have fewer teeth than men; that a female is an incomplete male or ‘as it were, a deformity’: which contributes only matter and not form to the generation of offspring; that in general ‘a woman is perhaps an inferior being’; that female characters in a tragedy will be inappropriate if they are too brave or too clever…
So there you go..
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