A new and deranged fad has infected new moms on Instagram as many have launched a new trend to battle against “rape culture”. How are they doing it? By asking their infants for permission to pick them up.
We are so far past insanity in this country. The rules that kept us sane and grounded seem to be going all out the window.
Since the moment he was born, we’ve always asked before we pick him up. I always feel for his “yes”. Why? Because we want him to know that his body is his, and that others’ bodies are theirs, and no one gets to make choices about someone else’s body. #lessonsinsovereignty #bornfree #endrapeculture Sidenote [sic]: If you ever want to hold someone else’s baby, my suggestion is to ask the parent, then ask the kid. It always touches my heart when someone takes a moment to connect with him and says “Can I hold you, dude?”
Moodley is far from being the only Mom that does this sort of parenting. Robin Weir is a mother to a 7-month-old boy, and she found it fitting to write something as a response for the post. “We do this too … makes it feel more like we’re doing things ‘with’ him rather than ‘to’ him.”
The post had been receiving many likes, more than 600 at first. It would seem that many other women agreed with the very odd choice. Moodley gave some description about her parenting choice.
“I don’t ever want my son to be a sexual perpetrator or the victim of one, and the best thing I can do is honor his choices about his own body. I also want him to pay attention to his instincts, and forcing physical touch could interfere with that.”
Moodley claims that her son, when asked, has even rejected her requests to pick him up.
“There have been times where Raven has responded by reaching his arms out for a hug or turning his head or body away.”
According to a so-called “parenting expert” Sharon Silver, the way Moodley is parenting is a correct method.
“This idea is part of the wonderful “Recourse of Infant Educarers” (RIE) parenting philosophy, which is essentially respecting a child’s timetable and allowing him or her to participate in the full range of experiences as the result of a decision,” Silver told Yahoo Beauty. “It’s the underlying premise of positive parenting.”
If you read over the RIE website, you’ll find the basic principles of RIE are used to “not only respect babies,” but “demonstrate our respect every time we interact with them. Respecting a child means treating even the youngest infant as a unique human being, not as an object.”
Uh. No. Babies and infants don’t get a choice. Their parents do.
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