Is this really measured as a problem for people? Let me tell you what she said, and her side of the issue…then we’ll break it down a little.
Cherelle Neille is unlucky-in-love, and when you hear that term you think the opposite of what she states her problem as being. For her, it’s being unable to find a man that will be compatible for her because she is too pretty.
Her words, not mine.
Cherell is a single mother, and only 26 years old, yet she has already given up on men and claims that her beautiful face is actually a curse. She says any potential boyfriend of hers always and only sees her as arm candy and nothing more. She is currently a shop assistant and aspiring actress. Her dating life has been one disaster after another, with men either only wanting her around to show her off to their friends and take photos with her, OR they are just plain intimidated by her thinking because she’s so beautiful and must not have a nice personality.
Again, her words…not mine.
So with all the heartache that comes with dealing with crappy men, she has given up on finding love – being objectified by men every time she tries to date one; it’s not enough, she wants more. She also says that plain Janes have it much easier because men will actually take time to get to know their personality instead of being so into their beauty.
‘Whereas for me, it’s always the wrong attention, they never want to know me as a person.‘
‘Plain girls end up with the long lasting relationships and I’m the one kissing all the frogs.’
‘I am sick of people assuming I am nasty when I am really a lovely person. My looks attract the wrong guys and it has been really hard, now I am completely over men.’
‘They continually think just because I’m good looking, I am going to be rude or stuck up. They say to me “oh you think you are too good-looking don’t you?” – which is ridiculous.’
Cherelle added: ‘Whenever I am on a date, they only care about what I look like, they never even listen to what I am saying.’
‘My last boyfriend just paraded me around to his friends and only cared about having his photo taken with me. No man I’ve met, so far, is ever actually interested in having a conversation with me.’
It isn’t only men she has a hard time with, she also hasn’t had much luck with her female friendships either.
‘Girls are jealous too, I only really have one friend,’ she said. ‘There was this one time I was clubbing with my friend and when we were in the bathroom, loads of girls I didn’t know were complimenting me, my hair and my looks.’
‘Then suddenly my friend walked out and left the club, and she hasn’t talked to me since!’
She added: ‘If I see a pretty girl I will definitely tell them every time what I love about them; it’s nice to be nice. I just don’t associate myself with many girls as friends anymore.
‘I find a lot of girls are insecure and don’t know how to compliment each other, other than the drunk strangers in bathrooms.
‘On my Instagram I receive countless spiteful messages. One girl messaged me saying “you think you’re so pretty but you’re not, go kill yourself.”
‘Another guy recently messaged me saying “you think you are too good for everyone.”
‘I just wish people didn’t judge a book by its cover, because I am not like that.’
Cherelle says she has been having trouble with her dating life for years. With failed relationships and disastrous dates, she wishes her looks stop attracting the wrong attention.
She said: ‘This one time when I was on a date, I remember something had happened in the news that day. I was sharing my view on the event, and this guy was not listening in the slightest.
‘He kept telling me I was pretty and wasn’t listening, I then said thank you, and carried on asking him what he thought of it.
‘He didn’t care and kept talking about my looks and in the end he hadn’t listened to a word I was saying.’
Cherelle added: ‘I think it’s hard having men not actually know me for me, I am funny and I love to have a laugh.
‘Girls that are more average-looking get to have those conversations with men and I have to be stuck with men not listening to a word I say.
‘Now I just can’t be bothered with dating any more. I don’t want to be less pretty, I just wish men would treat me differently..
‘I think there is a serious problem in society today with the way they treat pretty women.’
So now you have heard all about her problems, and I say she is right about them, that must be awful. However, I do wonder with all these issues with men and women alike, has she ever stopped to think about where she’s going to meet these sort of people? She seems to be defining them by how they define her…but stating that she is not shallow or just eye candy.
But, she should probably change the places where she’s been going to look for love and friendships. I’m pretty confident that will change everything. Unless, like those that she is complaining about, she is looking for a certain type of person…that can only be found among shallow people.
It will probably help that whole “I’m not a snob” claim is she smiled for at least a few pictures. Just saying…first impressions are important.
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