Some might say motherhood is about always putting the happiness of others before yours. Motherhood is about challenges It’s about nurturing, guiding, and teaching hard lessons. Motherhood is about learning to do the right thing, even when you’re not sure. It’s about finding your strengths you never thought you had and dealing with the fears you never thought existed. Many will even say, there’s no such thing as a “pefrect” mother.
Some mothers look like they always seem to have it all together, others not so much. We often even assume that certain public figures who are mothers just have it “all figured out”. Kate Middleton is one of those public figures who appears to always be so graceful and such a loving mother. We just assume has it all together. Most would say Kate is the “perfect mother” – elegant, poised and with style, but what if that’s not the case?
Kate Middleton recently revealed that this assumption is merely that — an assumption, which she addressed as she introduced the Out of the Blue film series. She admitted that motherhood has been “a huge challenge” at times.
This educational film series was created by the charity organization Best Beginnings. Best Beginnings took on the project with the goal of informing people about the importance of mental health, specifically in relation to pregnancy and the early years of parenting.
Best Beginnings, through their Out of the Blue series, hopes to reduce the stigma around mental health. Kate Middleton played a significant role in reducing this stigma by simply being honest and open about her own struggles in motherhood.
Middleton stated, “It is full of complex emotions of joy, exhaustion, love and worry, all mixed together. Your fundamental identity changes overnight. You go from thinking of yourself as primarily an individual to suddenly being a mother, first and foremost.”
She acknowledged that she has more resources and support at home than many women. Despite this, she still has found herself experiencing a “lack of confidence” and even “feelings of ignorance” when it comes to raising her two children.
Three-year-old Prince George and almost two-year-old Princess Charlotte are right within the age group when many parents are likely to start experiencing mental health problems. Pregnancy and the first year afterwards can be especially difficult stages, with two in ten women experiencing mental health issues during this time period.
Kate Middleton urges any mothers or fathers who feel like darkness and isolation are clouding their joy of parenting to seek help. Though not every moment of parenting will be a joyful experience, nobody should be suffering in silence and shame.
Asking for help is never a sign of weakness. In fact, Kate Middleton described it as “a real sign of strength.”
So if you’re a mother experiencing difficult times, you don’t have to be alone. Reach out to others. Ask for help. You just might be surprised what you will find and the support that will be extended back to you, even if others consider you to be the “perfect mother”.
If Motherhood was so easy, it wouldn’t have started with labor – Unknown
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