6 things I really wish I knew before all those years being 29…
As a 30 *ahem* something mom of teenagers, the frustration of my parents becomes more and more obvious. I wish some times I could force these kids to listen to my ‘wisdom’ – but again, who really listens to their parents at these ages?
As I pull my hair out daily, I have hope that someday they may come to realize some of the knowledge I impart to you now:
6)Gray hairs are a thing.
You’ll get them. Clairol makes hair dye, and plucking is definitely cool. No, two will not grow back in its place. Embrace the change.
5)Experience is what you get when you don’t get your way.
Oh, yes. When you have your heart set on an apartment that falls through, when you really want a new job and they hire *NOT YOU* – these lovely moments are what is known as an experience. You will have a lot of these. They will make you stronger. They will make you wiser. You will be a better person for it. They will not make you mac and cheese at midnight. That’s on you.
4)You will fall in love more than once.
Sometimes it sticks, sometimes it doesn’t. More often than not, it will break your heart. But the best thing is, without having a bad relationship, you can’t appreciate a good one. It sucks, but you’ll love the wrong person. You’ll also love a lot of the right-for-you-but-not-now people, right-but-not-for-each-other people, and some right now people. All of this is OK. You’ll love the right one in the right time.
I wish that someone had said to me when I turned 20 how fast they would go by. Like. so fast I don’t even remember my 20’s. Not because I was out partying, but because I was so stressed with college, work, raising babies – I didn’t even hardly breathe. Slow. down. Breathe. Enjoy your youth. Go relax, jump in a puddle, and stay out late. Because being a 20-something, that’s why. Have a life and live it, but don’t sacrifice yourself.
Look, I’ll be totally honest and tell you the world has a ton of a**holes in it. But, most people aren’t actually out to offend you. (see #3) Most people are so stressed out with *whatever* that they may just do jerk things. That is their issue, not yours. But forgive them, because anger you hold inside is like you swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die. Not. Gonna. Happen. A little forgiveness goes a long way in saving your sanity.
1)Learn to say goodbye.
This one was tough for me to learn. I still am learning, actually. The a**holes mentioned above are sometimes repeat customers, and sometimes come wrapped in cool disguises like ‘friends’ or ‘boyfriends’. Well, if they are constantly taking, or hurting you, it’s time to peace out. Kick those losers to the curb and find someone as cool as you are to hang out with. You deserve it.