Remember when buying sex toys was an embarrassing thing for some people? Maybe you also remember a time when it would have been considered taboo and you wouldn’t have wanted anyone to know that you were contemplating getting one.
Perhaps society has progressed or regressed, depending on your point of view, to a point where sex toys can be easily purchased online or in some lingerie shops like in Hollywood, California, without any feelings of awkwardness.
To be honest with you, I don’t really know where sex toys can be purchased and I’m perfectly okay if I’m considered a prude by some for not knowing.
Maybe if I had only attended the right schools or the “left” schools, as the case may be, I’d be cool with having a sex toys event on a college campus.
It was announced recently that Cal State Los Angeles would be hosting a “Sex Toys r Us” event. Just the type of event you would expect to see on a college campus, right?
The event was the brainchild of the University’s Gender and Sexuality Resource Center who was planning the event in partnership with a L.A. adult store.
Monies for the event were to come out of student fees meant for student activities, clubs and events.
The university administration claims that they had no idea what the theme of the event was and only became aware of it when parents starting complaining and the local affiliate CBS2 got in touch with them.
“This was a student-driven event, and when made fully aware, the university determined it was not appropriate, and we immediately canceled it,” according to CSULA spokeswoman Jocelyn Stewart.
Does her statement mean that they were partially aware of the event and didn’t bother doing anything about it until someone complained?
It took a parent calling CBS2 and reporting the event as “outrageous” before something was done. CBS2 eventually contacted the school and spoke with administrators.
While some students opposed the event, as you may have guessed, others embraced it.
“It is shocking when you see it,” student Laura Maturino said after looking at a copy of the black-and-white flier for the Feb. 11 event promoting “handcuffs,” “swings” and “#PlayTimeAtCalStateLA.”
Another student, Paulina Rubio felt that “If it’s trying to raise awareness on things people don’t know too much about, I think it’s OK.”
While some may just shake their heads and chalk it up as those “crazy California schools,” I see it more as an issue that is most likely effecting many college campuses across the United States.
It seems that far too often, college and university administrators in some schools aren’t aware of what is occurring under their governance.
You may recall, several incidents last year that made the news following events which were held by fraternities and sororities.
A “CMT vs BET” party, given by joint efforts of a fraternity and a sorority on campus at McDaniel College was deemed inappropriate, after the party had already taken place.
According to reports, women wore cut-off shorts, plaid shirts and boots while the men wore shapeless clothing, chains and backward baseball caps. Claims of racism were made.
Students argued that the event had been held several months earlier off-campus without any issues from the school and that the party did not make fun of African-Americans.
Vice President for Student Affairs, Beth Geri said that, “any event that promotes negative stereotypes or disrespect of others is reprehensible.”
Subsequently, both the college administration and the national headquarters for the fraternity and sorority found the event to be inappropriate.
The McDaniel party was held around the same time that another controversial party took place at Arizona State University.
Issues of racism also arose following a Martin Luther King Jr. themed party in which pictures on social media showed white students dressed in baggy basketball jerseys and shorts, flashing gang signs and toasting with hollowed out watermelon cups.
Following the party, the university kicked the ASU fraternity off the campus.
Should both of these schools have been more involved in what their sororities and fraternities were doing?
CSULA’s event involved a school-driven event by a student resource center located on its campus.
In my opinion, administrators should have been even more involved and more aware of what the group was doing than if it had been an off-campus fraternity or sorority.
In general, schools need to be more involved and more responsible for what is happening at their schools “before” an event takes place.
I would also hope that more parents would see what is occurring on some college campuses today and begin to question if this is how they want the money they pay toward tuition dollars and student fees, spent.
Thankfully, one L.A. parent did get involved and didn’t wait until “after the fact.”
No doubt, the event appears to have been trying to raise more than just awareness on the university’s campus, no pun intended, but thanks to a watchful parent, the event has now been canceled.