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Transgender Man Can’t Make Up His/Her Mind


Transgender Thomas Beatie is a fickle sort of fellow. Born a girl, she became a man through a series of procedures. He married a woman, but he is the one who gave birth to three children. Now he wants a divorce because he likes someone else now.

He’s had courts in Arizona debating the legality of his marriage, which, in turn creates confusion now that he wants a divorce. Oy, vey.

Changed my mind, Nans. You cool with that?

Changed my mind, Nans. You cool with that?

Make up your mind already. You, Thomas, made a commitment (legal or not) to be faithful to Nancy.

You and she, well . . . you had three babies, after stopping the testosterone treatment that made you a man. (180 degree much?) Now, after 10 years together, Nancy isn’t woman enough for you?

I think maybe you should hit the rewind button on life, and start over. Then make sticktoitiveness a core value. If you do everyone will be happier, and the courts won’t have to untangle your mess.

In the meantime, here’s the earth shattering news about Beatie, from Huffington Post:

A transgender man who made headlines by giving birth to three children can divorce his wife of more than 10 years, an Arizona appeals court ruled on Wednesday, rejecting a lower court’s decision.


A three-member panel of the Arizona Court of Appeals unanimously decided that the divorce can proceed because Thomas Beatie’s 2003 marriage in Hawaii was considered legal in Arizona.


“As the Beaties’ Hawaii marriage was lawfully entered in Hawaii and is not deemed void by Arizona law, the marriage is valid within this state,” said Judge Kenton D. Jones, in the 12-page opinion.


The court’s decision overturns a ruling made in March 2013 by a Maricopa County Family Court judge that blocked the divorce.


Judge Douglas Gerlach denied the divorce on the grounds that Beatie had not shown he was a man when he wed in 2003, and thus could not show he and his wife were a heterosexual couple. Same-sex marriages are not recognized as valid in Arizona.


Beatie, 40, was born a woman, but has lived as a man since his 20s after hormone treatments and surgery to change his gender. Beatie was legally allowed to change his birth certificate and other documents to reflect his being a male.


He first gained notoriety after stopping the testosterone treatments and deciding to have a baby when his wife was unable to conceive because she had a hysterectomy.   He made the rounds of national talk shows as the man with the thin beard and baby belly when he first became pregnant and gave birth to a baby girl in 2008. Two other children followed in the next two years.


Beatie filed for divorce in 2012, seeking dissolution of his marriage with plans to marry his new girlfriend.   Beatie attorney David Michael Cantor said he hopes that the appeals court ruling goes beyond this one case.


“People are going to have to get used to the fact that transgender people exist and they deserve the same rights and responsibilities that everyone else have,” Cantor told Reuters. “That includes the right to get married and the right to be divorced and the responsibilities that go along with all that.”

I’m guessing the custody hearings will go smoothly. Yeah, right!

THBby T.M. Burroughs

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Baron Von Kowenhoven

Baron was just a shy kid with a dream, growing up in the 40's with a knack for story-telling. After a brief career in film, Von Kowenhoven went to Europe in search of fringe-scientific discoveries and returned in the 90's to unleash them on the entertainment and political landscape of America.


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