Could you stand up in a room and say, without embarrassment, “We’re not perfect but even so, I encourage you to follow our example in marriage?”
A godly couple can say this because of what’s missing from their marriage (and because of what’s there, but that’s another article). Sometimes it’s good when certain things go missing.
Here are 10 that have no place in a godly relationship:
1. A Sharp Tongue
It can be easy to cut with words when things don’t go our way but, in a godly marriage, neither spouse yields to this ungodly impulse. (James 3:8)
2. A Good Memory (When It Comes to Offenses)
A good memory can be very bad. After we repent of our sins before God, He doesn’t then commit them to memory so they can be thrown in our faces the next time we need to repent. The Bible says that God forgets our sins. When we repent and ask forgiveness of each other, they should never be referenced again. Remembering and repeating past wrongs will prevent the true fellowship that always follows true forgiveness. We are called to forgive as God has forgiven. (Col. 3:13)
3. A Neglect of the Bibilical Order in Marriage
In today’s culture, it’s practically hate speech by now, but if you desire to have a marriage ordered according to God’s structure and standards, read and live by Ephesians chapter 5.
4. A Lack of Care for How Each Other Is Doing
Godly love engenders a genuine concern for one’s spouse. Communicating that love is as easy as, “Hey, how are you doing … really?” Love is kind (1 Cor. 13:4).
5. A Short Temper Or Easily Offended
Godly couples are slow to become angry (1 Cor. 13:5).
6. An Unwillingness to Sustain Difficulty
Godly couples have settled in for the long haul. Remember the old vow, “In sickness and in health?” Godly love bears all things (1 Cor. 13:7).
Pride says, “Notice me, talk about me, and focus on me.” The first thing you’ll hear or notice from a godly spouse is, “It’s not about me” (1 Cor. 13:4).
8. A Tearing Down of One Another
Godly couples are busy … too busy lifting each other up to have the time to tear each other down by speaking negatively to others.