Today Will Be the Last Day of My Husband’s Life …

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DeniedBen and I have been married for 1 year, 4 months and 2 days. Ben has just 16.5 hours left here on this earth with me. Sixteen and a half hours of time and we have no idea the end is coming … The clock is ticking.

So my friend, Nikki Goeser, begins her story. On April 2, 2009 she and Ben were operating their karaoke business in Jonny’s Sports Bar in Nashville, TN. A man stalking Nikki was asked to leave the bar. He pulled a gun and murdered Ben while she watched, helpless, just feet away.

Denied a Chance: How Gun Control Helped a Stalker Murder My Husbandis Nikki’s recounting of not just the tragic loss of her husband but of her transformation into a powerful and articulate voice for gun rights and advocate for the 2nd Amendment.

Far too many respond to the shooting of innocents in theaters and schools by blaming guns for violence, Nikki places the blame where it really belongs – on the murderers.

She came to understand legislators crafting bad law bear responsibility, too. The gun used to murder Ben was in the bar illegally. Nikki, although a carry permit holder, an Intermediate Handgun Certification holder and experienced gun range volunteer was required by law to leave her handgun in her car. She obeyed the law. The murderer did not.

Nikki can’t say with certainty that had she had her handgun she could have stopped Ben’s murder. She also knows a bad law denied her the chance to try.

In the aftermath of Ben’s murder, dealing with her loss, Nikki kept a journal which became Denied a Chance. She walks us, in poignant detail, through her last day with Ben and the murder itself. She tells the story of the Marine who tackled the murderer and the cop who stayed with her for the longest night of her life.

She tells her story honestly. She sought counseling and dealt with PTSD. Ironically, it was probably this that began her transformation into an activist.

Nashville provides counseling to those affected by violent crime. Nikki didn’t think twice about being armed while taking advantage of that program. The counselor felt differently. Nikki was told she was welcome to continue the sessions only if she left her handgun outside. Denied a chance once, Nikki wisely chose not to risk becoming a victim a second time.

Nikki went beyond asking merely “What happened?” to “Why did this happen?” Squarely at the center of the problem was Tennessee state law. She began to correspond with state lawmakers regarding the injustice of her being denied the chance to stop Ben’s murder.

Nikki connected with Suzanna Hupp, the woman who watched another lunatic murder her parents and 21 others in a Luby’s restaurant while her handgun was locked in her car in accordance with Texas law. Suzanna advised her not to fear standing up for what she believed and assured her such courage would impact others.

Nikki began seeking out like minded people and groups. As her story began to spread, she received offers to speak to various groups and eventually to testify before the legislatures of several states looking at ways to keep their citizens safer. Ultimately she would appear on programs like Nightline, Fox Business with John Stossel, ABC News, CNN, the BBC and other shows. She was awarded the Sybil Ludington Women’s Freedom Award by the NRA in 2012.

Thanks to her tireless efforts, Tennessee and other states changed their bad laws and began the process of protecting the law abiding and punishing those who are truly guilty.

Nikki’s tale closes with the trial where the law victimized her yet again. Despite the “open and shut” nature of the case, it took 3 years to come to trial thanks to the circus surrounding an insanity plea. Finally, however, some measure of justice was done and Ben’s murderer is behind bars for the next 25 years.

Nikki continues her work. She remains a tireless advocate for the rights of Americans to defend themselves in an increasingly violent world. No longer a victim, she has turned her pain into purpose. She will never again be Denied a Chance.

Hers is a story which must be read by every American.

Get your copy of Denied a Chance via Amazon by clicking here. If you would like to contact Nikki for an interview or to arrange a speaking engagement, you can contact her via her website and clicking on the Contact Us link in the top right corner.

Cross posted from Blue Collar Muse.

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28 Comments
  1. Phillipe Violette says

    In 25 years the evil SOB will get out and do it again. Execute him don’t parole him.

  2. truthseeker53 says

    The liberal anti-gun, anti-self defense idiots/legislators have LOTS of blood on their hands but have not the sense to know it and are in complete denial of their guilt.

  3. blair152 says

    Nikki, keep up the good fight.

  4. AFZoomieTim says

    Nikki….
    You are an amazing and very brave young woman.
    Rest assured: Every law-abiding, true American citizen stands with you 100%
    God Bless you!

  5. Russ says

    Hey politicians, how come so many people are murder in gun free zones. I stay away from those places. Don’t see hardly any murder in gun zones.

  6. siquijorisland says

    this woman should be a roll model for other women who do not get it

  7. bull57 says

    Maybe with voices like hers speaking out I may change my opinion of New Yorkers! No, doubt it. New Yorkers are so indoctrinated that it would take at least a generation to change their thought processes!!!

  8. Randy131 says

    If you’re a true Christian, and believe in the Holy Bible, then you should demand this murderer to be put to death, as GOD told Moses to tell the people in Numbers: Ch.35 Vs.16-21, and if for some reason you think Jesus changed His Father’s command, then you need to also read Mathew: Ch.5 Vs.17-20. GOD told Moses to tell the people that murderers shall be put to death by the ‘Avenger of Blood’, which today is the public’s executioner, but during Moses’ time was the next of kin. Since the murderer of Nikki Goeser’s husband was only sentenced to prison for 25 years in prison, and no telling when he’ll be eligible for parole, then when he gets out of prison, as Ben Goeser’s next of kin, and according to GOD’s law, the ‘Avenger of Blood’, Nikki Goeser, has the moral authority, according to GOD, to kill his murderer. GOD explains in a later verse of Numbers: Ch.35, that if the murderer is not put to death, then the victims blood, Ben Goeser’s, will cause our land to be accursed, which may explain why the USA is headed in the direction it is now, in decline. I often wonder why clergy preach against GOD’s words, as those in Numbers: Ch.35, or in Mathew: Ch.5? Are they trying to be more compassionate and empathetic than GOD, by disobeying Him, and teaching others to do the same?

  9. lokiswife says

    Allowing legal owners and carriers to carry whenever and wherever they feel the need is called “unknown security”. When gun laws tell people they cannot have their guns in a certain place, legal owners leave theirs at home or locked in their vehicles. All this does is make it easy for thugs who like the “No Guns Allowed” signs because it means that they have free rein to do whatever they want. Obviously the jerk knew that she could not have a gun in the shop, it made it so easy for him. Would he have done the same thing if he suspected that they might be armed and able to fight back?
    After a family goes through a situation like this, courts drag the legalities on for years, oblivious to the pain that the family is going through each time they have to go to court and wondering if and when the guilty party will finally have to pay the penalty. There is something very wrong (and very smelly) about a system that is not really concerned with the victims, but the criminals.

  10. jesuitfinder says

    Read Secret History of the Jesuits by Edmund Paris. http://www.chick.com

  11. EMIRCITNA says

    AS LONG as stupid people are elected to seats of government; be it city, county, state or federal,…we will continue to have STUPID LAWS!!!

    1. don says

      same ever where people talk the good talk but that’s as far as it goes. until we take the responeabily of what we have let happen to this nation . nothing will get better only worse

    2. Joan Carson says

      Oh…so true. Congress is full of them.

    3. edinvestor1 says

      Yes 40% of those eligible in the last Presidential did not even vote. So this is the result.

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  13. mtman2 says

    These two ladies are stand-up Americans for common sense gun laws! Sad for their tragic losses, koodos for their courage to stand for American law + values!

  14. edinvestor1 says

    I hope you can penetrate the “no common sense” mentality of the anti gun crowd, but I doubt it. You go girl.

    1. don says

      if ever one thinks she is right an she is lets all help her

  15. $12994363 says

    They should have fried the shooter. Wouldn’t ever have a chance to do it a second time.

    1. irish7_1sg says

      Or, put him in a cell where he will be raped every day until he takes his own life.

      1. Marine4Ever says

        He’s probably someone who would really like that. No chances. Light him up. But NEVER tell him when it’s gonna happen.

        1. irish7_1sg says

          Alright, you convince me. Lets shoot him. I’ll flip ya for who gets to pull the trigger, OK?

          1. Marine4Ever says

            How about we both pull the trigger… on our own weapons… on the 3 count? You take an eye and I’ll take the ear shot. Or, we’ll flip for either one. They both work for me.

          2. irish7_1sg says

            Sounds good to me. Although I fired a bunch of .45 Long Colt rounds from my S&W Governor, I have yet to try out these Winchester PDX1 .410 shot shells. This would be a perfect opportunity to get a feel for the recoil and an idea of the 3 disk/12 BB pattern. I must warn you, depending on the range we fire from, I may get both his eyes and and ear (or two).

          3. Marine4Ever says

            Hey! That’s even better! I’ll just enjoy the view!

        2. Sharon says

          I like the way you think. Thank you for your service. Semper Fi, Marine.

  16. Clete Torres ✓ᵛᵉʳᶦ ᵃᵈᵒʳᵃᵇˡᵉ says

    Continued luck, Nikki, with your good fight.

  17. MortarMan107 says

    God Bless you Nikki and way to go on turning what might have become destructive hate into constructive action.

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