There is a new trend that has launched for new moms. This trend is geared toward combating “rape culture”. New moms on Instagram are now asking their infants for permission before reaching out to pick them up or touch them.
I wish I was kidding, however, I am not.
I know, I know…the first question that might come to mind here is, what about breastfeeding? Does the infant have to give permission for the their Mother to feed them? Well, it seems so.
Although I cannot think of how to respond to such total lunacy…I am certainly going to try.
First,this could be economically advantageous to the parents. No baby ever wants to wear clothes. Might ruin a few carpets and hardwood floors. Tiles clean up nicely. (I’m trying to stay positive and what’s that word the left likes so much? Oh yes…tolerant. Despite my best judgement.)
My goodness! What did they do before this ludicrous idea? We must have just been raising generations of sexual predators!
Okay, all jokes aside. The truth is…What are you going to do when little Billy decides he doesn’t want to be buckled into his car seat or take a bath? I’m pretty sure at some point he’s not going to want to get vaccinated or go to school. I can see all kinds of problems in this mom’s future.
This makes zero sense, and messing with the role of what being a mother looks like, is not going to be easy for these mothers. Our job is to nurture our children, teach them right from wrong and principles such as integrity, self-worth, their birthright as a child of God…and all that good stuff.
If we are asking permission teach good to our children and show them what love looks like…when all the while this world NEVER asks permission to violate or mislead them…how will that work out for the child?
Think about it.
According to Heat Street, the trend began last week after Nisha Moodley, mother of 6-month-old Raven, made an Instagram post featuring a selfie with her son and an explanation of her new parenting style, complete with a “endrapeculture” hashtag. Moodley claimed she can “feel for his ‘yes’” after she asks to hoist him up:
Since the moment he was born, we’ve always asked before we pick him up. I always feel for his “yes”. Why? Because we want him to know that his body is his, and that others’ bodies are theirs, and no one gets to make choices about someone else’s body. #lessonsinsovereignty #bornfree #endrapeculture Sidenote [sic]: If you ever want to hold someone else’s baby, my suggestion is to ask the parent, then ask the kid. It always touches my heart when someone takes a moment to connect with him and says “Can I hold you, dude?”
Since the moment he was born, we've always asked before we pick him up. I always feel for his "yes". Why? Because we want him to know that his body is his, and that others' bodies are theirs, and no one gets to make choices about someone else's body. . #lessonsinsovereignty #bornfree #endrapeculture . Sidenote: If you ever want to hold someone else's baby, my suggestion is to ask the parent, then ask the kid. It always touches my heart when someone takes a moment to connect with him and says "Can I hold you, dude?" . ADDENDUM: Comments are disabled. Thanks to everyone who shared your support & also those who didn't agree, but were thoughtful & respectful. Unfortunately, hundreds of people just came here to call me nasty names & wish terrible things upon myself & my child. I'm not interested in engaging with that kind of immature, thoughtless vitriol, even if just to delete. I pray we learn to meet our fellow humans w/ curiosity & compassion. . This short post was followed by a 10 min interview with a very kind reporter, which was turned into a short article. It wasn't designed to be a piece of in-depth journalism. Most media isn't. A whole bunch of other media spun-off from that. I have spoken w/ no other reporters; no one has asked me questions or checked facts. . Some have assumed that I'd never touch my baby w/out his explicit consent. That's not what I'm saying. I love my son – I would never sit back & leave him in harm’s way. It’s my honor & responsibility to care for him in all the ways a mother would. . I also talk to him, ask him questions, and “attune” to him in the way that I think the majority of mothers do, intuitively. This is the beginning of a lifelong conversation about choice & consent. I believe that when children feel that they have *some appropriate* choice, it leads to a greater sense of healthy autonomy. I want him to make healthy choices with his body & respects others’ as well. . I am by no means saying that people are bad parents for not doing what I do. So long as we're not harming or neglecting our children, to each their own. I'm not a perfect parent. I'm simply working at being as loving & conscientious as I can be, every day.
Moodley is not alone. Within the comments of Moodley’s post was Robin Weir, mother to a 7-month-old boy, who wrote, “We do this too … makes it feel more like we’re doing things ‘with’ him rather than ‘to’ him.”
As of this writing, the post has more than 600 “likes” and hundreds of comments. The post’s popularity was such that Yahoo Beauty interviewed Moodley about her parenting choice.
“I don’t ever want my son to be a sexual perpetrator or the victim of one, and the best thing I can do is honor his choices about his own body,” Moodley told Yahoo Beauty. “I also want him to pay attention to his instincts, and forcing physical touch could interfere with that.”
Moodley claimed that Raven will sometimes reject her when asked permission.
“There have been times where Raven has responded by reaching his arms out for a hug or turning his head or body away,” she said.
Yahoo News reported that “parenting expert” Sharon Silver said that Moodley’s parenting methods are correct.
“This idea is part of the wonderful [“Recourse of Infant Educarers”] (RIE) parenting philosophy, which is essentially respecting a child’s timetable and allowing him or her to participate in the full range of experiences as the result of a decision,” Silver told Yahoo Beauty. “It’s the underlying premise of positive parenting.”
NO! Babies are NOT supposed to come with an agenda!
Funny how these loving moms have already condemned their baby boys as rapists in the making. Wonder how a kid growing up being told that he is a potential rapist throughout his life will eventually feel about rape when he becomes adult…
Poor kid…prayers going out to him.
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