I came up with what I thought was a pretty good Hobo Metaphysic the other day: Nothing can harm you more than what you tell yourself about yourself.
I put it up on facebook and a buddy of mine implied getting run over by a heard of stampeding cattle may in fact hurt worse. My friend thinks he is funnier than he is, but I did laugh at that.
I had a normal childhood. I use the word normal a lot to describe things that happened that many of us go through, that actually were not all that hot.
My family had the normal amount of chaos; fighting, alcohol, and divorce. I was also molested. Now this happens to many boys but does not get talked about that often. Some say the numbers are 1 in 6 but I believe they are higher.
At any rate, if you had a similar childhood you came out of it telling yourself things about yourself that ain’t true. Things like everything is all my fault, and I can’t do anything right, in other words; I suck, I suck, I suck.
Well if you are like I was, you put on whatever face you think will get you by in the world, while you slowly die inside.
Now you can change how you think about yourself, that is one of the joys of being human. One way to go about it is to try and see yourself as God sees you. You are his child, created in his image. He loves you deeply, forgives all your faults, thinks you are a creative genius, and wants your every happiness and joy.
When I am having a tough go of it, I will sit down for a while and use one or two so called mantras I developed. The main one being, “I love you with everything that I have.” I will say it to myself for a while, then God, then whoever may be giving me trouble. Pretty soon and sometimes not so pretty soon, more like after a good long while, my heart feels light and loving again.
I am here to tell you; you don’t suck, you never sucked and you never will suck. You only thought you did. You are, in fact beautiful. Give yourself a chance folks, give God a chance. Be abnormal, in other words, loving.
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